Do you sometimes feel that your partner is too controlling or critical of you? Or, are you getting into a relationship that you are not too sure of? Instead of making you happy, is your relationship actually leaving you depressed?Well, if you have similar doubts running through your mind, then you need to start looking at various aspects of your partner’s behaviour or his or her personality to determine whether this relationship is healthy for you or not! When we spoke to a few people who had or have been facing problems in their relationships, there was something we found common in all of them. They all had the warning signs in front of them, and had been either ignoring or overlooking them for long. We bring you here a few relationship red flags that you must look out for if there is a trouble brewing in your love paradise.
#1. Temper outbursts
If your partner has temper outbursts at every little thing that goes wrong, then something is indeed wrong. Also, these outbursts need not be directed at you all the time. It could be about other people or even things as well. As Neha Khattani, a software developer, says, “My ex used to lose his temper at the drop of a hat. Everything from my friends messaging me when I was out with him to his favourite team losing a match, everything sparked his temper. Initially I thought that he is either being too possessive or passionate about things, but it slowly turned into bigger things, like swearing and throwing things around.”
Yes, temper at times is okay and justifiable, but if it is happening far too often, then that is a red flag. It can also be a sign that your partner is unhappy, and their unhappiness will definitely start affecting you, too.
#2. Possessive and controlling nature
Is your partner over possessive about you to the extent of calling you multiple times in a day, not allowing you to meet people of the opposite s*x, or extremely jealous of your past relationships?
If you feel that your partner is always holding the steering wheel of the relationship and your life, and if he or she forces you to make changes in your lifestyle as per their whims, then it is time you talk to them about this.
#3. Insults and bickering
Does your partner keep looking for ways to incite a fight, and keep bringing up past issues every now and then? Or, does your partner constantly demean you in front of other people or crack constant jokes about your looks, your weight or maybe the work that you do? If yes, then this is a red flag in rising!
#4. Jealousy and lack of trust
An important pillar of a healthy relationship is trust. If your partner is constantly jealous of your acquaintances and keeps calling you to check your location, then it is quite apparent that he or she does not trust you.
What’s more? If your partner’s jealousy and lack of trust makes them go snooping in your professional life or social media, then it is a red flag for sure. You should not forget that a relationship cannot survive if there is no trust between the partners.
#5. Critical about your family or friends
If your partner dislikes your family or friends excessively, to the point of avoiding them at all costs, then you really need to ask yourself where your relationship is going.
#6. Lying
Lying to your partner about something can also be a sign of an unhealthy relationship. If there is true love, then your partner will never be afraid to admit the truth, no matter what.
#7. Blaming you
Does your partner blame you for anything and everything that goes wrong in his or her life? If yes, then you need to get out of this relationship before it starts taking a toll on you mentally.
Also, if you constantly have to defend yourself, or you end up blaming yourself for their problems, then think of it as a warning sign. Such negativity is not good, neither for your mental health nor for your relationship.
#8. Sexist attitude
This one is specifically for women! If your partner does not respect women and believes that ‘their place’ is in the kitchen, then it is time to think hard about what your status is in this relationship.
#9. You have to defend it to your loved ones
There may be some people in your family who might not instantly fall in love with your significant other. But, if it is a general consensus among your family mambers and friends, then this is definitely a red flag.
Apart from the person you are with, it is your family and friends who know you best. And, if they all feel that you are stepping into a wrong relationship, then you should consider listening to them. It could just be that they are apprehensive about your partner, but if you feel that there is some truth in what your near and dear ones say, then do give your relationship another thought.
#10. Wondering if you are in the right relationship
This is the most surprising one that a few of our readers did bring to our attention. If you find yourself wondering more than often about being in a wrong relationship, then chances are that you are probably in one.
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